1. Grateful for Thirty

    Thirty just used to sound so old. It sounded like something that adults did. Drink black coffee, care about the news, and turn thirty.

       It sounded lifetimes away. How could I possibly turn thirty? I was still so unsure of my future, my tastes, my self. 
       Thirty existed, for me, on another life plateau. Thirty year old Kim was married. She had kids. She was a successful writer. 
       As my twenties crept up and up, edging ever closer to thirty, I remained convinced that I would wake up thirty and suddenly have the life I expected. It was a little scary, but also exciting. There was a giant countdown clock, and at 5:12am on June 5th, 2014, I’d wake up thirty - somehow, suddenly, an adult.
       And then this morning came. 
       The truth is, I haven’t learned anything new since this morning. I’m not suddenly married, with 2 kids, and a 3 picture deal at Warners.
       But thirty isn’t scary. It hasn’t been for a while. 
       In fact, I’m awesomely grateful for thirty. I’ll be grateful for thirty-one and all the rest too; because the fact is that life is incredibly short, and having been reminded of that fact recently has only made me love thirty even more. Everyone had the chance to turn thirty, and all the rest. 
       Thirty feels like New Year’s Eve for me, in that I don’t really think either are a time to start changing your life.
       Maybe there are things I should do now:
          -Try not to chew gum when I’m on the phone. 
          -Take a list to the grocery store, and actually stick with it. 
          -Take my life less serious. 
          -Take my career more serious. 
          -Be restless, but not reckless.
          -Be kind. Always. 
          -Recognize that “the one that got away” may just be a boy with a cool
             tattoo and my favorite jokes. 
          -Know what I want out of life, and politely refuse to stop until it’s mine.
       Except, these aren’t things to do because I’m thirty, these are things to do because… well, because they’re things to do. They’re also things to do when you’re twenty-nine. Or thirty-one. 
       You don’t suddenly get a great group of friends. You just dump the ones that suck, and then on your birthday be lucky enough to hear from everyone else - your best friend since the third day of kindergarten, all the way up to dinner with work acquaintances that somehow became your family. 
       You don’t suddenly know what to do with your life. You have either never known anything else, or you’re still finding it. 
       You don’t suddenly let go of everyone you’ve been holding on to. Maybe this morning you found yourself gripping to a breast cancer heart on your keychain and thinking how pissed she’d be if she knew you were tearing up (and, for the love of God, would it really kill you to put some damn lipstick on?). 
       It’s not perfect - thirty. It’s not a magic number with a countdown clock to adulthood. 
       Thirty is neither the end of an era, or the beginning of one. It’s just a birthday.
       Thirty is not scary. Thirty is perfect. 
       Thank God for thirty. And all the rest.

  2. Mean Girls, strong women, and Wendy Davis

    Today is the 10th anniversary of Mean Girls. Obviously you’re celebrating (are banks open today? They shouldn’t be. Are you wearing pink today? You should be), and one of the ways you should celebrate is by donating to Wendy Davis’ campaign.

    What do the two have in common?

    Well, first of all she’s not like a regular candidate. She’s a cool candidate.

    She’s obviously a fan of the movie - she announced her campaign on October 3rd.

    Cady Heron is named after Elizabeth Cady Stanton, who lead the fight for women’s rights - including the right to vote. Wendy Davis also really likes voting, and would probably really like you to vote for her.

    Much like we still feel the effects of Mean Girls 10 years later (I think we can all agree the world’s a better place since the movie’s release), Texas will be feeling the effects of Wendy Davis fighting for it for years to come.

    Okay, yes that last one was a stretch. Look, just… Go give $5 to Wendy, then hit up Taco Bell, throw in Mean Girls, and remember - happy hour is from four to six.

  3. aseaofquotes:

Sandra Cisneros, “Eleven”

Woah. I studied this piece in high school, and then years later wrote a short(ish?) story based loosely on this piece. I couldn’t remember the name or author, or anything other than it was about having a birthday and having all the other years in you still. I’ve been looking for this piece for, at least, six years. I have no idea how this showed up on my dash but, just… Good job internet.

    aseaofquotes:

    Sandra Cisneros, “Eleven”

    Woah.

    I studied this piece in high school, and then years later wrote a short(ish?) story based loosely on this piece. I couldn’t remember the name or author, or anything other than it was about having a birthday and having all the other years in you still.

    I’ve been looking for this piece for, at least, six years.

    I have no idea how this showed up on my dash but, just… Good job internet.

  4. Kansas’ fight is everyone’s fight

    When I was a kid learning about civil rights, I’d often wonder what I would have done in the 50s. Would I have stood up to the ignorance, hatred, and bullying? Or would I have been too afraid to speak up? Would I have fought alongside those who were fighting for the most basic of human rights, or would I have allowed them to fight their own battles? Could I have sat at that counter in Greensburo? Could I have gotten on the Freedom Riders bus?
    It was easy then to say yes. Of course. It was easy to say I could have, when I assumed I’d never have to. 
    It was the 90s. The 50s were in the history books and in the stories my mom told. The 60s had happened, now it was the 90s and I was sitting right next to black and Latino kids in my classroom.
    Of course I could say yes - because I never thought I’d have to do it.
    That was the 90s.
    Now it’s twenty years later, and if you replace today’s headline with “black” instead of “gay”, it’s like no time has passed at all.
    When anti-gay segregation laws are being passed, and people are having real, actual, conversations about whether allowing a same-sex couple to get married opens the door to polygamy and child-brides, it’s time to ask yourself the question again.
    When are we going to stand up for what we know is right? When are we going to stand up to lawmakers who seem to have forgotten that the whole point of being in the politics is to help the people. When are we going to stand up to a law that only exists to belittle its own tax-paying, law-abiding, citizens?
    Rep. Charles Macheers was absolutely right to say “Discrimination is horrible. It’s hurtful … It has no place in civilized society.” It’s a shame that he’s using that thought to push for a bill that does exactly that.
    But you can’t rationalize with ignorance. You can’t sit ignorance down and try and talk to them like they’re an adult. Ignorance can’t hear you.
    You can’t tell ignorance that, not only is this bill absolutely disgusting, it’s also absolutely pointless. Denying basic human rights to gay citizens won’t stop them from being gay, because there’s no choice in it. How do I know? Because I’ve never made a decision to be straight. It just… is. 
    Today I encourage Kansas to fight this law. 
    Be better human beings than your law assumes you will be. 
    Be smarter business owners than your law assumes you will be.
    Be more loving than your law assumes you will be. 
    Be more open-minded than your law assumes you will be.
    Be better than the state of Kansas has today declared you should be.
    Today I encourage you to board your own Freedom Bus. Because unless we continue to fight, these laws will continue to pass.
    This isn’t someone else’s duty. This isn’t someone else’s fight. If you are an empathetic citizen of this country, if you posses any type of soul, if you have within you the ability for compassion - this is your fight. Because looking out for our neighbor, making sure our fellow man (or woman…) is afforded the same rights as you - those are the things that make this has made this country great. Those are the things that will make this country great again.
    Twenty years ago, asking yourself what you would have done, it was easy to say you would have fought. I’m not saying it won’t be easy to say it now, but if the alternative is to see the rights of my neighbors, friends, and family taken away… 
    This is our fight. 

  5. Someone wrote an article about the movie!

    First, the obligatory, check out our Indiegogo page because I’d like to do things like… not have to sleep in the streets of Texas while I’m making this thing.

    Now, check this out: 

    http://www.thegirlinmotion.com/2014/02/were-people-its-not-movie-its-movement.html

    I’m super excited about this. Also super weirded out, because I’m not the one who gets the press. I’m the one who stands awkwardly by while other people, normal people, people who wouldn’t answer interview questions with “I wanted to make a Power Rangers movie,” get interviewed (as it should be). 

    I don’t mean this in a symbolic sense. I mean, as a PA, I have literally stood by awkwardly waiting, while actors on the show get interviewed. 

    And yet - here is an article about me and a movie I’m making.

    A movie I’m making and am now watching snowball into… a MOVIE. I’M making. 

    Because seven months ago, I just wanted to go to Texas. Seven months ago Wendy Davis had just stood for 13 hours for women everywhere. She was brave. She fearless. She was inspiring, and I just wanted to be a part of it all. Seven months ago, I just assumed I’d sleep on couches and walk precincts everyday for a spring. 

    And then… and then my friends weren’t voting, and I was frustrated. So then it was, when I’m in Texas I’ll register voters. That turned into, maybe I’ll make a short of out this. Which turned into: I’m making a movie. I’m pulling my friends into it. I’m going to dedicate 18 hours a day to this. I’m not going to sleep and I’m probably going to give myself an ulcer.

    And today it turned into - holy shit. I’m making a movie, and people are actually caring about it now. 

    So read this article. Check out our website. Get involved. And stay tuned, because I can’t be sure, but I’m sure I’ll as some point have a pretty great, public, panic attack. 

  6. msnbc:

Amazing.The University of Missouri community is rallying around football star Michael Sam in a big way. You’re going to want to watch The Rachel Maddow Show’s latest “Best New Thing in the World.”

If anything deserves the phrase “Best New Thing in the World,” it’s this.

    msnbc:

    Amazing.

    The University of Missouri community is rallying around football star Michael Sam in a big way. 

    You’re going to want to watch The Rachel Maddow Show’s latest “Best New Thing in the World.”

    If anything deserves the phrase “Best New Thing in the World,” it’s this.

  7. We're the People →

    mrmikesnowden:

    Tumblr Nation:

    "We’re The People" is a documentary about a lot of us: young, passionate people which for some reason, have been very apathetic in the decision making of our nation. Call it "anarchy", "distaste for lawmakers", or a general "giving of no fucks", but this is an issue that is bigger than you can imagine, and it goes farther than you think. 

    The thing is you are completely within your right to vote or not. All we are attempting with this project is document why and how people base their involvement in state and federal issues. Whichever direction you lean- right…left…middle, it’s your call…

    We just want to know why.

    Check out our Indiegogo page. Help us reach our goal, and then go treat yourself to some ice-cream, because ya’ done good, kids. Ya’ done good.

  8. Why should we raise the minimum wage?

    Because I’m bad for the economy when I have $918 a month left over after rent. 

    Because I want to spent money. I want to buy useless crap. I just can’t.

    Why should we pay 16 year olds flipping burgers $10/hr? Because 16 year olds buy video games. They buy concert tickets and cars. They don’t save their money - it goes right back into the economy.

    Because single parents working three jobs to pay for their family is embarrassing to this country. And that’s on us, not on them.

    Because the custodian in my office works a 12-hour graveyard 5 night a week, and cleans houses 3 days a week. 

    Because the minimum wage isn’t working anymore, and the only people saying it is aren’t making minimum wage. 

    Because no opportunity is created when workers are choosing between buying food or paying a bill. The picture of the future is diminished when the present looks like an empty fridge and a winter without heat.

    Because we’re not jerks. Because we should care about our neighbors, metaphorically and realistically. 

    Because Jim Hightower’s dad was right - "Everyone does better, when everyone does better."

  9. Just so we’re all on the same page…

    Questions it’s NOT sexist to ask:

    Where do you get your confidence? (To quote Mindy Kaling - “I think people are well meaning, but it’s pretty insulting. Because what it means to me is, ‘You, Mindy Kaling, have all the trappings of a very marginalized person. You’re not skinny, you’re not white, you’re a woman. Why on earth would you feel like you’re worth anything?’”)

    How do you balance it all? How can you possibly take care of your marriage, child, and career at the same time? Men do it without comment, but you have boobs - how can you possibly manage?
     
    Are women funny? Men are funny, that’s a universal fact. But a woman? Funny? I don’t know… maybe every once in a while. You certainly can’t count on it. But hey, congrats on Bridesmaids though. That’s a real win for all of you, huh?
     
    Question it IS sexist to ask:
    Lena Dunham - Why are you naked all the time? Nothing against you personally, just generally wondering how it drives the story to have your character naked.
    Got it? No? Here’s the breakdown:
    It’s NOT sexist to lump every single woman into one giant pot, and any success they have has to be measured by how great you do in comparison to how easily a man can do the same thing.
    It IS sexist to ask any question that makes Lena Dunham specifically feel uncomfortable, or any question she doesn’t have a solid answer to.
    So how about you stop being such a sexist asshole?

  10. Story matters. Writing is important. Stories make the world go around. Many things begin as words on a page. It matters to the world. And it matters to you. Don’t let anyone rob you of that. Don’t rob yourself of it, either. Don’t diminish. Don’t dismiss. Embrace. Create. Accelerate.

    — Chuck Wendig (via writingquotes)